Toddler Tantrums and Discipline
Hello Ingrid. I have a 2-1/2 year old boy.
He gets frustrated and throws tantrums (and throws objects) when he is unable to accomplish a task...example, he loves trains. He has a train track and likes to link a train with other trains, but if you link too many together it's hard to keep them on the track when going around a curb, so they usually fall off. He gets very frustrated and cries, throws a fit and starts throwing his trains. No matter how many times we try to explain to him why the trains fall he does not understand, keeps doing it and throws fits. And no matter how many times We (his parents) tell him not to throw his toys he always does, and after the 2nd time his father usually scolds him and spanks him. My son then can't stop crying because he's upset now because his dad yelled at him and spanked him.
Now my question is, are we doing the right thing?.....my husband says he needs to learn not to throw things, and not to throw tantrums. I am not against discipline when my son is being disobedient...but in this situation, I feel like My son is only throwing the toys because he's frustrated, not because he is trying to disobey us. Yes we tell him not to throw but he does it anyway, but i'm sure it's out of frustration.....are we doing the right thing? Or should we approach correcting his tantrum and frustrations in another way? I look forward to your response....thank you!